Buy it when you earn on your own!

So, I don't think anyone is strange with this phrase, "you can have it, when you grow up, you earn on your own and you can afford it."

Hmm... I want this thing now, but I can't have it because I am NOT

1. Grown Up

2. Earning on my own

3. Able to afford it

May be that's not the case with everyone, but I definitely started calculating my worth with what I can have and buy. This idea of keeping your wants in mind and keep reminding yourself of your lacking, I don't see how that is very motivating. 

When you go back to your family and say that I am in this debilitating mental condition because of my upbringing, they say that we sacrificed our lives for you and this is what you have in return. First of all, I did not ask to be born. I was literally forced into this world. Also it was you who told me to keep in mind the things I want when I am 6, like a cartoon printed pencil rather than simple one, and buy them when I am 30. You told me that I should be lacking in that one thing for so long and strive to buy that thing. In that moment I felt hurt, I felt disappointed in myself that I am so worth less that I cannot get what I want. That feeling sinks and sinks in deep. That feeling surfaces, anytime when a child is trying to ask for something, which might be absolutely necessary, but the child keeps evaluating if they should be asking. A child doesn't know how to separate wants from needs. A child just knows that as a person, they are not enough. This keeps getting stronger with time, with every blow.

Nothing is ever enough, even when the child becomes an adult, and they have fulfilled the criteria of being grown up and earning, no amount of money can afford to fulfill the years of lacking. If you want to discipline your child, in terms of how to spend money, talk to them about it, see if they are grown up enough to understand that. Don't tell them that they can go rogue, when they are by themselves, and have to sit still in your reign. 

PS: Thanks for paying my school and college fees.

But guess what its "not enough" to bring up a sane child. Ha ha